By Nate Bagley
Most of us monogamous folks have some extreme assumptions about plural marriage. Particularly in the case of polygyny (when a man is married to more than one wife), these descriptions aren't uncommon:
Misogynistic. Exploitive. Unethical. Manipulative. Distasteful. Selfish. Sexist.
But, I recently sat down with a polygamous family to talk to them about their marriages, and I have to tell you, I believe these people know more about what love really is than most of us monogamous folks. Here are eight lessons about love I learned from a polygamous family.
1. Commitment shouldn't change based on your happiness level.
Happiness is an emotional state, and emotions are volatile, unstable beasts. If you're only willing to stay committed as long as it makes you happy, you turn into a love addict. (That's a real thing.)
It's easy to bounce from relationship to relationship in an effort to chase down happiness. We forget that happiness isn't something that's found; it...
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